why the fuck does everyone in the purge movies want to kill people if crime was legal i’d find a way to erase my student debt and also probably steal a bunch of new clothes
This line here is the reason I get so annoyed when people act like Peter wasn’t their friend, when they portray him to be this annoying little tag-along, like he wasn’t a proper marauder.
Sirius would have died for Peter.
It’s what makes Peter’s betrayal so damning, the fact that they all would have died for him. They would have died rather then betray their friend.
Literally there’s NO POINT in peter’s storyline AT ALL if people pretend for a second that he wasn’t a marauder, or that the others didn’t love him as much as they did each other.
(via sweatersnervously)okay, but maybe people interpret it this way because the only scenes we get that show the marauders together in their youth and the analysis of their friendship given by major characters always present it that way? like peter is the uncool, untalented, unfunny kid that adores and idolises these people and all he gets in return is being the butt of the joke. see, you can be friends with someone and actually feel friendly affection towards them, but still be emotionally abusive. especially james and sirius seemed to show nothing but contempt to peter. he was the kind of friend you enjoy having around because his inferiority makes you feel better about yourself. you can grace them with your presence and feel like a benefactor, but you will never see them as on the same level with you. (incidently, that is the same story neville lives through later on and, funnily enough, he never seems to be able to shake off this view others have on him, even after proving himself heroic. there is still a moment of patronisation whenever the narrative mentions him, especially when taking the standpoint of another character. i’d argue there is something deeply ableist about it, as both peter and neville – and luna, the other constantly bullied character, whose neurotype is treated like something “mythical” yet childishly naive by the narrative – are people who do not live up to the expectations about “intelligence” and magical know-how their society has for “normal” people; also cf. that whole squib thing.)
when sirius claims he would’ve died for peter, it says less about their friendship and more about his concept of loyalty and heroism, as well as his self-image as a heroic, good person. being willing to die for someone is not a means by which you can define affection, as it contradicts the desire for self-preservation and is therefore a much more complex psychological dilemma. not being willing to sacrifice yourself for someone else does not mean you don’t love them; much rather it’s problematic in itself to equal these things. biographically, peter has already been sacrificing his own pride for the sake of their friendship, he accepted being turned into less of a person for their amusement and he did so because he was hungry for their attention. what he won from this arrangement was a certain social status outside the group as well as security, but throughout he had to play the part of a follower rather than a friend. it only makes sense that if this standing and security are threatened and a new group offers him some to what seems like roughly the same conditions (followership, inferiority, being an unperson), he’d be inclined to switch sides. he cannot afford loyalty because he has neither the inner strength to keep himself safe, nor the social position to develop feelings of responsibility towards an equal (you don’t usually feel responsible for people who you conceive and conceive themselves as above you). (via denaerys)
at a horror movie
- bf: are you scared?
- me: in this economy who wouldn't be
emotional abuse is when someone does something to hurt you, and when you express your feelings, that you’re upset, they turn it around to be something you did to hurt them and they force you to apologize for it, and your feelings, like always, are rendered invalid and silenced, forever damaging the ability to trust others with your feelings because they always are used against you.
this is important because so many people don’t know this